“FEMINISM”- Most Misintepreted Term in This Era

I don’t know where to begin from! But, to begin with I would like to question you people what do you think of the term feminism??? And to all those feminists out there, I want to question you people as well. What do you think you are- a pseudo feminist or a pro-feminist???

Well, the actual meaning of feminism is as following:

“Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve equal political, economic, personal, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.”

At least this is what the Google says. I already know this but what about those who have commonly misinterpreted this term???

I know that the feminist struggle in India has been a long one, and it’s still obviously nowhere near its goal of equality between men and women.

Women still have plenty to contend with: the proverbial glass-ceiling at work, casual everyday sexism, no apparent decrease in cases of assault, and cops and politicians still blaming everyone and everything .

However, some Indian laws are actually in a woman’s favour. Of course, there are always men who cry foul about this, and launch ridiculous campaigns that becry men as the forgotten gender, and call for an end to ‘discrimination’ against men.

The real tragedy, however, are the uncertain number of women who use the admittedly sparse benefits of being a woman in India for their personal, unfair gain. While there is nothing wrong with reaping the perks women have in society, there is a problem when individual women use it to disadvantage or malign others.

One of the most common of such occurrences is the issue with reserved seats on buses and reserved compartments on local trains. I do not deny the need for them; more than a right, or even a privilege, as they’ve been dubbed, they are more of a necessity for women to travel in relative security, away from the eyes and hands of unsavoury characters, at least for the duration of their journey. This is the precise reason I use ladies’ reserved seats, myself.

But, I have personally witnessed several instances where young, able-bodied women have demanded that senior gentleman to give their auto to these girls because they are “women” and trust me this gentleman was too old, most probably in eighties and walked with a stick.

I also watched while a college girl hopped onto the general compartment of a metro, found no vacant seats, then walked up to a young man and asked him to give her his seat, on account of her being a woman. He refused, and rightly so, seeing as she chose to enter the general compartment in spite of the compartments reserved for her.

These instances, while unfair, do not cause debilitating damage. They just leave the inconvenienced men and other bystanders with a distorted view of what feminism actually is.

But what about the cases where, in order to implicate men against whom they nurse a grudge, women falsely accuse men of rape? The men may or may not have caused them some form of trauma, but they are innocent of the crime they are being accused of.

Accusations like these not are not only illegal, but they cause extreme humiliation and anguish for the men they’re levelled against, they also discredit the actual past, present and future victims of rape.

A false accusation by one woman immediately causes a shadow of doubt over women who’ve actually survived rape, and this isn’t something we need in a culture that’s already lax about taking genuine rape cases seriously.

People misusing feminism often have a ready excuse, saying, “Women have suffered for years, it’s alright to take advantage of our rights now.”

This isn’t true. By abusing the rights our forbears fought for, we insult them by stooping down to the level of what they fought against. And by being this way you are just being a pseudo-feminist instead of being a pro-feminist.Pseudo feminist achieve their ill motives by taking this platform as a medium. Whereas, pro-feminist do not expect to be specially treated nor do they accept bias in their favor, all they claim is equality in all ways.

It is the pseudo feminists who are losing their ground and trying to steer away this movement from the core issues. There are still many places in this world where women are still lagging behind and are not given the right platform to come up with their ideas. To add on to this, women are ill-treated and are not credited for their skills or merit. Hence, for their welfare we still need to have pro-feminist groups. However, the pro-feminine movement will never lose its meaning because it has empowered women, boosted their confidence, has made them self sustainable. They have never portrayed men in the bad picture. Equality was all what they asked for and have achieved and will achieve the not achieved.

For the sake of the betterment of life, and the general upliftment of women , we need to stop being biased and a pseudo feminist.

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WHO AM I -JUST ANOTHER WOMAN and ANOTHER SURVIVOR

Before I make this post, I would like to write a small note. My following poem is Dedicated to all those beautiful women who are survivors in there own way. Women go through a lot. To survive they not only need to be strong physically but also mentally as well as emotionally. This poem is dedicated to all those women who went through a lot yet chose to move ahead and survived . And that’s what makes them proud to be a woman.Though, I don’t think my poem is good enough but still you all can take it as just a small gesture towards women.

note : in this poem “I” doesn’t refer to me myself , but to a woman who went through all this .

Following is my poem:-

I was in mother’s womb ,

When I was planned to be killed.

Yet, I survived .

Who am I?

Just another woman.

When I was an infant

I was cursed , poisoned .

Yet , I survived

Who am I ?

Just another woman .

When I was a toddler,

I was humiliated, I was emotionally targeted.

Yet, I survived

Who am I ?

Just another woman.

When I was a kid,

I became a toy .

Yet, I survived

Who am I ?

Just another woman.

When I was a teen,

I was eve teased, vulgar comments were passed on me.

Yet, I survived .

Who am I ?

Just another woman.

When I was an adult .

My dreams were tangled with the relations.

Yet, I survived .

Who am I ?

Just another woman.

When I was twenty-two,

I was married to an unknown man.

His dreams became my dreams.

His wants became my wants.

Yet,I survived .

Who am I?

Just another woman.

When I was twenty-four years old
I gave birth to my first child.

Almost gave up in the labor room .

Yet, I survived

Who am I?

Just another woman.

When I was forty-four,

My kids completed their education.

I forgot  my dreams while fulfilling their dreams.

But , I was given no credit.

Yet, I survived .

Who am I?

Just another woman.

When I was fifty-four,

My kids left me in an old age home.

They couldn’t take my burden.

Yet, I survived.

Who am I?

Just another woman.

In every deed of my life,

I fell,

I rose,

I screamed,

I yelled ,

I sacrificed.

Gave  just another exam ,every next day.

Yet, I survived .

Who am I ???

Just another woman.